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Tear Down These Walls…

Berlin Wall at Ronald Reagan Bldg and Intl Trade Center in DC - G.Pescatore

I hate walls! They block your view and prevent you from hearing clearly what is being said on the other side. (These particular walls I am referring to also wake me up at 430 in the morning….which note, waking up at 430 a.m. is one big reason you will not see me have anymore children. I don’t sleep a lot, but when I am sleeping….I don’t appreciate being woken in the midst.)

So often we talk about issues arising from the” us versus them” mentality; be it one ethnic community versus another; PTO board-parents; parents-school; parent-teacher; school boards-educators or parents. So often, I see and hear the comment repeatedly come up in conversations (written and verbal) that, yes, we need to build relationships and respect one another. Relationships are the core foundation of what we need for success. Yet then people say, do and write things that not only keep walls in place, but at times, make them bigger.

If we truly want to break these walls down and realize this vision of working together without walls between us…

We need to humble ourselves.

We need to realize that no one individual is better than the next (I don’t care how educated you are/aren’t or how much money is/isn’t in your bank account or if you speak the English language or not).

You can be at the top…or the bottom of the ladder in the blink of an eye.

We need to not only talk about working together – but actually have actions to back that statement (and when you dig deep, if you don’t believe it, than you really need to find a role that you do truly believe in).

We need to remember that we all are 50% of the problem….but CAN and also NEED to be 50% of the solution.

A child is just that; a child. We need to be providing them with positive reinforcement…not tearing them down.

We need to greet others with an open heart and open mind.

We need to remember we all are human; breathing the same air, standing on the same ground.

Our words can have a lasting impact on those we speak to and of…good or bad.

We all need to remember…before we say or do something; listen to what you are saying from the shoes of someone on the other side of that statement (wall). How would that impact you and your actions going forward?

Just as we tell our children to be kind and think of others. We need to practice what we preach. Our actions DO speak louder than our words…but words also have the power to shape someone’s perception of reality (and perception is reality to them). If we can knock down these walls that divide and prevent us from working together, we might be pleasantly surprised at the potential of others and what we can all accomplish.


We Are Our Children’s Role Model

Its not always what you do and say LR

From the time they are little. Before they can use their words. We tell our children to use inside voices, share their toys, say/wave hello. As they get older, we send them to school and friend’s houses and remind them to be good, use their manners, and remember to say please & thank you.

We talk so much about teaching our children to be compassionate, empathetic and respectful of others, both in school and at home, yet as our family begins another baseball season, I am quickly reminded why our children do what they do. Why we continue to see kids saying and doing hurtful things to others. Just as they mimic the positive things the adults in their lives do, they also mimic the negative.

In just the last week I witnessed parents yelling at umpires, arguing with coaches who are volunteering their time, complaining about a schedule not working with their personal schedule, making insulting about the kids on the opposing team, and a mom shocked that I would allow her to sit on the my dry blanket on the wet bleachers simply because I was from the opposing team. After watching and coaching my children in sports over the last 10 years, I shouldn’t be surprised anymore…yet I am because I do believe there is more good than bad; that the bad news simply travels faster and speaks louder. These issues are not limited to sports; we witness them while shopping, at work and while at school, just about anywhere you go.

We need to remember that children are not only listening to what we tell them, but they are also observing our actions. We need to model those “good” traits that we so wish for our children to possess…even when we think they aren’t paying attention.


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